Friday, January 30, 2026

Reading Together at Home

 

* Reading Together at Home *
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One of George’s favorite “exercises,” as he called it, was our reading time.

He would sit on the sofa, and I would sit on the armchair with a book in my hands — and my glasses properly on, of course. He would tease me and say, "Don’t tell me you can read those prints without glasses!”

"Don't tell me you can read those prints without glasses!

I would read aloud to him, slowly and clearly. After finishing a chapter, he would say,
“Alright, now close the book. Tell me the story.”

That was where the real fun began.

Sometimes I mixed up the sequence. Sometimes he remembered details I forgot. Sometimes we both confidently told the story wrongly and only realized it when we reopened the book. And then we would laugh so hard at ourselves.


Reading together, remembering together, retelling stories together!

George said this was how we would keep dementia away — by forcing our brains to work, to remember, to retell. But more than that, it kept our hearts close. We were not just reading a book. We were sharing thoughts, sharing laughter, sharing life.

And often, this verse would come to my mind:

“Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom.” — Colossians 3:16

Reading together, remembering together, retelling stories together — these are not only exercises for the brain. They are exercises for love.

In these quiet afternoons, we were keeping more than dementia away.
We were keeping our marriage alive.

(Written from memories of our days together in the summer of 2021.)

Friday, January 23, 2026

The Cruelty of Soundless Speech

 

The Cruelty of Soundless Speech

There is a kind of unkindness that makes no noise.

No harsh words.
No argument.
No accusation.

Just a careful, deliberate silence.

It happens in groups, in fellowships, in teams, and sometimes even among friends. A person speaks warmly to everyone except you. Your presence is acknowledged by absence. Eye contact is avoided. Conversations move around you as if you are invisible.

Nothing is said — and yet, everything is felt.

This is the silent treatment, social exclusion, emotional coldness. It is a form of speech without sound. It quietly says, “I know what I am doing to you.”

And because no words are spoken, there is nothing to respond to, nothing to clarify, nothing to heal. You begin to question yourself. Did I do something wrong? Am I imagining this? The heart feels pushed away without understanding why.

Such silence can hurt more deeply than spoken criticism. Words can be discussed. Conflict can be resolved. But silence leaves the soul standing alone in unanswered space.

The Bible understood this quiet sorrow long ago:

“They repay me evil for good and leave me like one forsaken.” — Psalm 38:20

To deliberately ignore another person is the opposite of fellowship, the opposite of love, the opposite of encouragement that Scripture teaches. 


Yet here is a gentle truth to hold onto: when someone chooses this soundless speech, it does not describe your worth. It reveals their inner condition.

A mature heart speaks honestly.
A wounded or prideful heart withdraws silently.

And so, we learn to remain kind, to continue acknowledging others warmly, and to never use silence as a weapon.

Because sometimes, the loudest cruelty is the one that makes no sound at all. 



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